Tips to Deal with Sibling Rivalry

Why would anyone want to know how to deal with sibling rivalry?

I mean really.  Isn’t that a no brainer?

Personally, I just love it when my kids fight.  Nothing brings me more joy than when the oldest is picking on the youngest.

Even better… when the kids are wrestling for the remote control and end up whacking one another with passionate rage and aggression!

Yes!  What a proud and peaceful mom moment!! 

Said NO MOMMA EVER!

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Sibling Rivalry & Bickering

In this episode, I speak specifically to a mom in AHFAS Private Community.

She’s open and honest about losing her ever loving mind because of her kids’ constant fighting and bickering.

I hear you, Girlfriend, I hear you.

We all hear you.

How To Deal with Sibling Rivalry

Today, we’re talking about how to deal with sibling rivalry. Even more, we’re discussing:

• Mom’s frame of mind & reaching out the Lord for calm in those moments
• Address the answer to the ultimate question about how to fix sibling rivalry? Is that even possible?
• Addressing the root issues behind the tension
• Specific language and verbiage to use in those moments when you want to scream at the kids to

‘STOP IT NOW OR I’M GOING TO LOSE MY MIND. WAIT?!! I JUST DID!!”

Is Sibling Rivalry Normal?

In the end, it’s important to remember that sibling rivalry is normal.

It’s to be expected because we are broken people living in a broken world.

Just because we’re a Christian family, does not mean we’re immune to the realities of relational conflict.

Expecting zero tension between our kids is unreasonable and only sets us up for failure.

Resetting our expectations is often the most important factor when navigating these tough moments.

Peacemaker Points

Later, I’ll offer a specific strategy to end sibling rivalry. I like to call this strategy Peacemaker Points.

This strategy should work until the age of 12. However, you can use the general principle to end sibling rivalry in older sibling dynamics.

Be encouraged, Momma!

Sibling rivalry is no fun. However, it’s important to remember that our kids’ relationships with one another are blessings even in the hard.

Stick with me.

If you think about it, the sibling rivalry helps them learn how to navigate conflict.

Siblings on Purpose

God has chosen our kids to be siblings on purpose. I believe wholeheartedly that He is in this 100% with them.

In the end, it’s really not only on us as moms to solve these issues.

I guess you can say that we get to participate, but we won’t always be able to fix it.

And while that’s so hard, it can relieve us of some pressure.

Listen to the episode and let me know your thoughts.

Comment below. And please do subscribe and write a review if you’ve been encouraged.

We’re in this together.

Links And Resources from This Podcast

• SPONSOR: A Heart for All Students
• Parenting Growth Mindset
• 5 Day Parenting Course for Relief and Tools that Work!
• Behind the Behavior book

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• [02:14] My Oldest Is Picking on My Youngest
• [03:37] Well, what about it?
• [05:47] Peacekeeper Points
• [07:19] Collaborative Process