Should you train your kids to obey right away?
That’s the question. That’s also the topic of today’s episode.
About a year ago, one of our AHFAS moms asked me this question. So I spoke about this heavy idea in a Facebook Live.
In this episode, I share my perspective and talk about positive Christian parenting.
She asked this:
“I was at a parenting conference this weekend. The person leading the workshop told us that it was our job to teach our children to obey right away. He said we needed to expect this of our kids because that’s how we train our children to listen to and obey the Holy Spirit. This didn’t sit well with me. What do you think?”
Immediate Obedience From Our Kids Is Not Possible
Well, as you can imagine, I had lots to say about it. I remember hearing this from trusted friends as we parented in the early years.
But ya know what?
If it was possible for any of us to obey right away, why would we need Jesus?
Throughout the Old Testament, we see the Israelites desperately trying to obey all the laws.
They tried to obey right away, and yet they never could. They failed miserably over and over again.
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Jesus Abolished Obey Right Away
In God’s wisdom and love, He sent His Son to live the perfect life for us because we will never be able to do so on our own.
Friends, we can never do it perfectly.
We are considered righteous because of Christ’s work and not our own.
So, where does this idea of obey right away come from and how do we discipline our kids well?
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I discuss this concept in my book Behind the Behavior.
For an even deeper dive, check out the online course Barely Surviving To Outright Thriving.
If you’re Christian mom that struggles with guilt when your child displays challenging behaviors, this is the episode for you.
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