AHEART #17 | Calm A Child During Meltdown

January 3, 2021, 7:55 pm

During a meltdown, do you know how to calm your child? Raising a higher-needs child can be exhausting. For the mom in the trenches, finding a way to calm her child during a meltdown can feel impossible.

Girl, I know this because I’ve lived it. When my son began acting out with uncontrollable and dangerous behavior (think running into the street BECAUSE he saw a car coming), I thought I was a failure.

All of the parenting strategies I knew to use were absolutely useless with him. Everything I depended on to anchor my identity as a good Christian mom dissipated.

I felt alone, alienated, exhausted and defeated. And I know I was not alone. There are millions of adoptive, foster and special needs families in our country living this life of chaos, fear and shame.

Calming Our Kids’ & Our Own Meltdowns

By God’s grace, I’ve learned so much and we’ve experienced a ton of growth and freedom as a family. So in this episode, I share some of the radical changes in mindset that I wish I had known earlier.

Listen to this episode and let me know your thoughts. Or you can read the blog post here.

Sweet Momma Friend, it’s ok to parent our kids differently. We can do this together. Be encouraged.

During a meltdown, do you know how to calm your child?

Raising a higher-needs child can be exhausting. For the mom in the trenches, finding a way to calm her child during a meltdown can feel impossible.

Girl, I know this because I’ve lived it. When my son began acting out with uncontrollable and dangerous behavior (think running into the street BECAUSE he saw a car coming), I thought I was a failure.

All of the parenting strategies I knew to use were absolutely useless with him. Everything I depended on to anchor my identity as a good Christian mom dissipated.

I felt alone, alienated, exhausted and defeated. And I know I was not alone. There are millions of adoptive, foster and special needs families in our country living this life of chaos, fear and shame.

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Podcast Audio Text

During a meltdown, do you know how to calm your child?

BTW… I am referring to your kid’s meltdown… not yours. That’s another blog post.

If you have an adopted child, a child with cognitive differences, or if you’re just in a tougher season with your kiddo, the relevance of this question is even more profound.

Raising a higher-needs child can be exhausting.

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Key Ideas And Concepts About Calm A Child During A Meltdown

Raising a higher-needs child can be exhausting.

And the reality is that the way that our child’s cognitive differences show up on any given day can definitely impact the severity of our momma fatigue.

For the mom in the trenches, finding a way to calm her child during a meltdown can feel impossible.

There are millions of adoptive, foster and special needs families in our country living this life of chaos, fear and shame.

Trauma. It’s real and it’s pervasive. And it needs to be ripped out of the shadows and exposed for what it is in the foster and adoption world.

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Stay In Our Lane

We as parents take way too much responsibility for the successes and failures of our children.

My boy’s cognitive differences made his ability to self-regulate well a very difficult task.

I was able to see his need to be taught how to behave in a way that he could process and receive.

This allowed me to respond to his meltdowns not from a place of offense, but from a place of support.

My own insecurities and fear made navigating my son’s meltdowns exponentially more difficult.

Think about how many adults you know that live in the dire wake of growing up believing themselves as a disappointment to the adults around them.

It’s ok to parent our kids differently, Sweet Momma. We can do this together.

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  • [01:25] My Own Hot Mess
  • [02:35] Shifting Perspective On Discipline
  • [03:34] Christian Parenting Books
  • [04:10] Unhealthy Expectations
  • [05:39] Suffering Leads To Good Even If It Sucks
  • [07:10] Need For True Self-Care
  • [10:05] Inability Saved My Family
  • [11:05] Complete Shift Leads To Big Changes
  • [12:15] Fear Is A Liar
  • [13:57] Inherently Bad

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