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• Neuroscience
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• Fight, Flight Or Freeze
• Grace And Relationships

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Key Ideas And Concepts About Tips To Parent An Angry Kid

What does a parent do when his/her child’s first reaction to any frustration is rage?

We’re told that rage and anger and frustration is bad. But the problem is, we’re human beings and rage and anger and frustration are just symptoms of what’s going on inside.

We need to look behind the behavior and try to figure out what is going on for so many of our kids that are struggling with executive functioning issues or just kids that are wired differently.

They know internally that they’re different.  And those differences and those struggles that they navigate are constantly corrected, constantly pointed out, not intentionally by anyone to do harm, but just because this is the world we live in.

These kids are constantly receiving these messages that they’re not good enough.

When we feel like we’re not good enough, when we feel like we’re not valuable, when we feel like everything we do is wrong, the only thing we can do is become protective.

When we feel bad about ourselves, we become protective and that protection oftentimes leads to anger. And I know this is true for adults. This isn’t just true for our children.

Unfortunately, in our culture, in our world and even in our churches, we tend to frame behavior as the be all end all.

The best way to reach my heart when I am losing my ever loving mind is when someone shows me grace and compassion and love.

God shows us love even while we’re a mess. The Gospel is so clear that we cannot behave perfectly and the only way for God to rescue us was through relationship, even while we were still sinners, even while our behavior was still a mess.

The only way we change, the only way our desires become more like God’s is through relationship.

We have to learn to look behind the behaviors and seek the heart of our children. We have to take a step back and think what’s going on? How can I connect with this child so that this child feels safe?

It only comes through relationship. Some of our children are living in a world that tells them everything about them is wrong.

Relationship has to be first. We cannot get our kids to do what we want. We can not get our kids to obey without having a relationship.

Again, it all goes back to what do they feel about who they are.

The part of the brain that is responsible for reasoning, that is responsible for executive functioning, which basically allows us to override our big emotions, to override our desires to do that which we’re not supposed to do. That part of the brain doesn’t even develop until the third decade of life.

That part of the brain is not developed in our kids. So the way we reach them is we bring down fear, we allow them to feel safe. And that comes through relationship.

There’s so many ways to love our children well, and often times that comes from really examining the expectations that we have. Are those expectations appropriate for my child? What does my child need in this moment?

It is OK to give our kids grace and parent them differently.

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•    [01:44] What Do I Do When..
•    [03:48] Fear Leads To Anger
•    [05:30] Compassion And Love
•    [06:14] Look Behind The Behavior
•    [08:45] But None Of That Matters
•    [10:27] We Lose Our Minds
•    [12:15] Free Five Day Devotional

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Relationship First Even When Our Kids Lie

God tells us to love others and He does that through relationship. And that’s how we need to parent our uniquely-wired kids.

Relationship first.  Always.

Find out how to navigate the pain when your kid struggles with lying.  We want our kids to tell the truth.  So why do our kids who have ADHD, Autism or other executive functioning issues lie so much?

I speak to this question and tell you how to use relationship to help your child break this habit.

Be encouraged!

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• Five Day Devotional
• Fight, Flight Or Freeze
• Grace And Relationships
• ADHD And Lying

Key Concepts: Moms Rallying Together & How To Navigate Lying

I want you to join me to support our outside-the-box kids so that they can thrive in the long-term.

By creating a tribe of moms who are willing to parent differently, who are brave enough to parent differently.

The need for a community of other moms to change the long-term outcomes for our outside-the-box, neurodiverse, uniquely-designed children.

I want to share it with you and then you share with me and then what happens is you share with your friends and then that friend shares with another friend and eventually we create a tribe of moms that are willing to be brave enough to do things differently.

For our children are being FORCED their entire formative years to be something that they’re not and then they end up with severe anxiety, depression, cutting, suicide.

If we work with our children now and equip them together, then we can change the trajectory for millions and millions of kids.

Of being brave to do parenting and education and whatever differently for our kids that don’t fit the box and not to be ashamed of it.

But to just look at the children that God has given us and parent those children and give those children what they need to thrive in this world.

Relationship is what changes people. Threatening people doesn’t work.

God tells us to love others and that’s what he does through relationship. And that’s what we want for our children.

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•    [01:31] When I First Started
•    [03:00] Need For Community
•    [04:42] Change The Directory
•    [06:11] Relationships Change People
•    [07:00] ADHD Kids And The Truth
•    [08:50] Fight, Flight Or Freeze Response
•    [12:15] Fighting Back
•    [12:55] Child Meltdowns

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A Heart For All Students: Rock Your First Year Of Homeschooling

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Key Ideas And Concepts About Rock Your First Year Of Homeschooling

Co-learning and how you can provide your child a superior education just by being invested.

When we do the lessons together, particularly when it’s something like algebra or something that’s a little more complex you have to puzzle through information to try to gather the right answer.

I know where I’m struggling, which then lends itself to me teasing through what might be a barrier for my child.

When I say co-learning, I’m just thinking about this as like a lifestyle. I’m just talking about learning alongside your children, and this is a huge thing for moms that are new to the whole idea of homeschooling.

It’s about the idea that you do not have to know everything. You do not have to have a background in education. You have to only know this. That you want to learn something and all of us can walk alongside our kids.

When we don’t understand something, there’s something about that that connects us.

You are learning alongside your children, and that is how we learn. That’s how we teach.

Any mother can pull open a math book, a reading book. You’re gonna learn with your kids and your kids are gonna benefit from being able to ask you questions.

When you’re learning alongside your kids, then you know what they know. Then you’re able in life to like pick out little nuggets of information that, you know has to do with what they were just learning

It’s like the principle behind real, homeschooling and real learning. Learning is always happening.

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•    [03:20] Think About It As A Life Style
•    [04:04] Any Mother Can
•    [05:20] She’s Teaching Me

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